Laura Kate Dale creates an illustrated children’s book about transgender experiences to help children find resources and words to describe their experiences. (if)
A new children’s book tells young trans people there’s nothing “terrible” about their identities.
me and my fidget monster Follow the journey of Nisha, a young girl living with a fuzzy monster by her side.
As Nissa’s monsters grow, her world shrinks. She feels isolated, cut off from the people she loves, like everything around her has lost its color.
When people call Nissa a boy or use boy names for her, the monster grows, until eventually the once-tiny creature wipes out everything in her life.
But one day, Nissa meets Jake, a trans man who also has monsters, who explains that being able to live like his real self shrinks his “gender dysphoric monster.”
A young trans girl — supported by these messages — has come out on the open, and the once-all-encompassing monster of gender dysphoria has shrunk so she can once again lead a vibrant life.
Author Laura Kate Dale told pink news The metaphor is very personal.
“I don’t see trans people presented as inner-life people who are going through what I’m going through,” Dyer said of her youth.
“In the early ’90s, all I saw was trans people being represented as monsters or punch lines. It made me feel like a monster.”
Without any positive trans representation and a general “lack of understanding” of the community at the time, Dyer felt isolated.
“Externalizing it as something terrible, terrible, nameless – because if I admit it’s there, I admit that there’s something terrible a part of me – it’s a very hard feeling to grow up with.
“I need stories that show that I’m not alone in my inner thoughts, and if I follow those thoughts to natural conclusions, I have hope of being a happy, well-adjusted, positive adult.”
Laura has found her way, but she wants to make things easier for the next generation.
me and my fidget monster For young trans people, their parents and peers.
It’s designed to be “a resource for talking about the inner experience of being a fidgety trans person in a language that children can understand”, but also “a resource for adults so parents can read what you do in more detail” The kinds of things that “have no time for review in children’s narratives”.
Importantly, it can also teach cisgender youth why the journey of “respect for others” and empathy for others is “important.”
in the book, Other people’s “little actions” ultimately affirm Nissa’s identity and help to disperse the “emotional cloud that eats everything” – making her feel that there are “fewer obstacles” in her life. This reflects Dell’s own experience coming out of the closet.
“I was 18 at the time, but my mom looked back and described how I shined as a person,” she said. “I’m thriving socially like never before, I seem to have more energy, and I think it’s better to portray this physical lift and brightness in images than in words alone.”
Dyer was painfully aware of the atmosphere in which she published the book, with the UK and US seeing “rumours of a ban on discussion of transgender identities”.
But she wants people to see “behind all the posturing, the dramatic headlines and the fear-mongering” people see “little fragments” of society that are essentially just trying to survive.
“At the end of the day, we’re all people who are unhappy with ourselves, but discover simple, fundamental changes that can go a long way toward helping us become happier, healthier, more active people,” she said.
“Those who are terrified of our existence do so because they know they will lose the battle in the end.
“The reason you’re seeing so many vicious, anti-trans headlines and anti-trans communities is that if you look at the demographics, trans people are becoming more widely accepted as younger generations grow up.
“It’s only a matter of time before trans acceptance becomes the norm, and what you’re witnessing is an angry, misguided scream from a community desperately trying to seize power knowing that their bigotry is acceptable. [are] Numbering. “